The male chastity phenomenon, which first began decades ago in England, has now become a thriving market. Hundreds of models are made by dozens of manufacturers worldwide. Why had John begun to wear a locked, stainless steel chastity device around his genitals? “There’s no way I can get to myself,” he admits. As a result, John’s sexual activities are controlled by the major lady in his life (who is not his wife!): the woman who keeps his key.

“Male chastity is not just for celibates. I researched the topic and interacted with several chaste males before and after writing my book about submissive men. And learned these devices are increasingly being worn by oversexed males, usually submissive, who think they should “lock it away” for their own good. Such men with a frequent need to orgasm find male chastity initially challenging, yet ultimately satisfying.

Even more submissive men would choose chastity if they could only find willing keyholders. John’s wife knows he’s in chastity and how another woman holds his key, but believes her husband’s behavior to be merely juvenile. This wife has little patience for exploring her spouse’s sexuality, yet doesn’t want to disrupt their marriage, family, or comfortable lifestyle.

So what does the keyholder get out of this unconventional relationship? The keyholder’s mantra is, “Control the orgasm and you control the man.” Wearing male chastity devices was initially embraced by dominant women to ensure a man’s fidelity, make him more compliant, eager to do her bidding. But these days, men are also locking themselves up to thwart frequent masturbation!

How can you tell whether a guy is wearing a chastity belt without undressing him?

His jeans are way too baggy, but he’s not hiding a weapon. Maybe those oversized chinos with the waist pleats are sign that he’s stuck in the eighties. Or he could be wearing a chastity belt! Consider there have been several million units sold. And these stainless steel, silicone, or polycarbonate plastic devices are trending way more than those sloppy trousers.

He’s edgy and seems to have ants in his pants. A guy who’s bound down there may be physically uncomfortable. Though all male chastity devices perform the same function, each model is different. Finding the right style and fit can be daunting. They’re often either too tight (it scrapes or pinches his flesh) or too loose (he can remove it and satisfy himself without his keyholder’s permission.) As they can’t be tried on in sex shops for sanitary reasons, these items are mainly sold online…making that perfect fit fairly elusive. Because men often order the wrong ring size, savvy subs first buy an inexpensive set of plastic sizing rings (which come in different circumferences) before ordering a specially sized, nonreturnable item for several hundred dollars.

He’s not a hug bug. Men who wear chastity devices usually pull away with their pelvises (but not their torsos) when you give them a friendly hug. They wonder whether women can “feel something down there.” As most chastity models are quite solid and are secured by a sizable metal lock, theirs is a realistic concern. But these guys are actually satisfied by having a subversive secret that could be accidentally and easily detected.

He needs his privacy in the men’s room. This fellow invariably makes a beeline for enclosed stalls and never uses the urinals. He’s well aware how a wayward glance from a nearby officemate would wreak havoc with his reputation.

His trousers are spot-on. If you’ve occasionally noticed a small spot on the front of his pants, it might not be from a sweating Slurpee cup. It could be where fluid has leaked from the urinator hole in his chastity device. Male chastity belts may put a kibosh on orgasms, but not the fluid that can dribble out when he becomes aroused.

He’s practically champing at the bit. This guy always seems overly eager to see his lady because…she’s his keyholder! Often highly sexed or a habitual masturbator, he’s on edge about whether or not she’ll unlock him and possibly allow him to orgasm. It’s not the promise of a release that drives him wild, but the uncertainty. Begging for an orgasm is a major turn-on for submissive men in active chastity.

He’s putty in her hands. Keyholders like to play games with men in chastity — not mind games, but child-like games, such as games of chance. The winner gets to have a release, or to deny one. Men who’ve caged their genitals crave willful women who relish having control over when (or if) their guy can orgasm. Ceding power to a strong woman not only excites the submissive male but keeps him coming back for more.

His performance has improved recently. Many men maintain that being in chastity gives them increased energy and focus, helps them function at a higher level, and curbs the compulsion to masturbate several times a day. This holds true even if chastity is self-imposed (the man has no keyholder).

Although keyholders can crow about how their chaste male is made to “suffer for them,” for most submissive men, being in forced chastity is preferable to penetrating a woman. And it’s a means to end their obsessive masturbation.

What are its benefits?

  1. It stops your man from wasting his time and libido masturbating. If you are in a relationship, all of his sexual energy should be directed at you. It should not be wasted on him touching himself and thinking about other women. As long as he can masturbate, he is psychologically cheating on you – and lying to you by default.
  2. Your sex life will improve. Because he’ll have to please you in order to get his release, he’ll become a more experimental and better lover. You will have more orgasms per week than you’ve ever had before.
  3. Your relationship will become stronger. Male chastity encourages open and honest communication about each other’s needs. This is an incredible benefit for any couple, and why male chastity can help any couple improve their natural bonding.
  4. His orgasms will improve. As long as he can masturbate regularly, he is taking action that desensitizes his penis. Once he is on a more normal ejaculation schedule, his penis will become more sensitive and his orgasms will become stronger.